FOUR FACES OF FORGIVENESS

Righteousness is a suit of armour. The righteous suffer a lot of opposition and dissent. They are often victims of fraud, cheating, abuse, castigation and many other forms of physical and psychological challenges. But they are also shielded by the confidence of being ‘right’.

Some righteous people understand that the characteristic of being right is a blessing which has been bestowed upon them. Many are irked by the absence of their own reflection in each face they see, and when they become judgemental, the virtue of righteousness changes shade to become the malaise of self-righteousness.

The righteous person is in a position to feel and practice compassion, forgiveness and love; unless the idea of his own goodness goes to his head and he becomes guilty of conceit. The self-righteous ones become cynical and overlook to remember that they are in a position where they can feel compassion for those who are not so lucky.

Blessed are they that can forgive; forgive not as a favour bestowed upon the object of their forgiveness, but as a form of liberating themselves from the shackles of being judgemental, of bearing a grudge, of the burden of tolerating someone morally inferior. The favour of forgiveness is bestowed more upon oneself than upon the object of one’s forgiveness. Forgiveness cleanses the forgiver, giving him pride in tolerance, understanding, compassion and, finally, love.

Much has been said about forgiveness as a gift or a blessing to be given. But there is another face of forgiveness that is equally, if not more important; that of asking forgiveness!

One who is ridden with misgivings and guilt is not encased in the shell of righteousness. He is naked and vulnerable, weak in the knowledge of his guilt, stripped of his self-confidence. At the first sign of misgivings about some thought, word or action, he is prey to remorse. Remorse goes hand in hand with guilt and self-derision.

The remorse and uncertainty of being wrong are far more defeating than the frustration felt at others for being wrong when one knows what is right. The heavy shackles of guilt and remorse can only be broken by kindness and faith. Kindness to oneself in forgiving one’s fault, and faith in god and goodness, enough to build up the courage to ask forgiveness of those one has wronged.

Not forgiving oneself, not being compassionate and kind to oneself, is as bad as not forgiving others. Forgive, and make a fresh start.

Asking forgiveness is much more difficult than giving it. This is primarily because it must rely on the goodness of others rather than one’s own.

It is not easy, this business of asking forgiveness. It is far easier to try and justify one’s wrong than to forgive oneself or ask forgiveness of others.

One way would be to go about it slowly, deliberately. One could start by analysing and recognizing the possible effects of one’s transgression. One could go on to argue and quarrel with God for making it happen. Then one could thank God for making it happen because it has made one realize one’s helplessness in the face of guilt and hope in the power of God to rescue. Soon one would be able to appreciate God’s design and forgive oneself. As understanding dawned, it would become clear that there is no personal guilt, in the same way as there is no personal righteousness; only the Grand Design. It would be a short step then to forgive oneself and ask forgiveness of God.

These are both within the person, and easier to get at than the final stage, that of asking forgiveness from those who have been aggrieved or wronged. One runs the risk of rejection. But it may be remembered that once the asking is done, the burden is transferred to the giver. It is now his choice to forgive and start afresh, or to dwell upon time that has flowed by. This forgiveness is the one most difficult to ask for, and the most rewarding when received!

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